Strength

Seagull in Monterey

Taken by the daughter on her birthday

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About two years I met a lady that said her husband had been a victim of a drive by shooting. Jen was really sad and depressed and she kept talking about her husband, as if he was still with her. Every time I talked to her she would talk about his ghost, and how she would talk to him every night, asking for guidance. When I was at home she would talk to me on the computer and tell me about tv shows she would watch about a woman that could talk to ghosts. She would focus only about that. I thought she was obsessed and she would never move on. I didn't know how to help her, I didn't know what I could do except be there when she asked for help. As time went on she would ask me advice about moving, or about her kids' school or about her future employment plans. She asks about what should she do when her kids want a computer or game. She is from Vietnam and doesn't know how we do things. She doesn't understand schools here, but she learns quickly. I understand where she is coming from, she had her husband shot to death in her garage. She called the police when her husband's car was still running with him shot in the head in the driver's seat. I had never read the reports about what really happened, but now I really understand this situation. I have met the kids a few times, once we went together to the water park, once they were in the area and stopped by, and once I went with them to celebrate the daughter's birthday. People like this touch your life, and you are stronger because you know them. Jen won't read this, but if she did I would just tell her that I would always be around if she needs me, and so would anyone I know!!