Happy Mother's Day

Jayne, Lindsey, Mom, Sarah

I have three daughters, and they all have the same mother (someone asked me that once). I have been divorced for over 10 years and I am confident I made the right decision to divorce. I was very unhappy when I was married. My ex-wife had two roles, wife and mother. I can judge her as a wife and I don't feel she was successful in that role. I can judge her as a mother and I think she did a good job at that. She did not do things the way I would have done them, but my kids are well educated and nice people. I am very proud of my kids so I must give credit to their mom. At some time in their lives my kids will let me know if the decisions I made were the best for them.

Before we were married we thought we would be happy forever

I think we need to remember that our kids' mothers are important to the children has more relavence than what kind of partner they were. Children are what is important to life and that should not be forgotten. When I was going through my divorce I did a lot of soul searching in deciding whether I should fight to have my kids live with me or have them live with their mother and me have financial difficulties for a couple of decades. I thought the girls would be better to live with their mother, but I live 10 minutes from them so I am a constant person in their lives. I am not sure if their every day lives were comfortable, but I never heard complaints.

Kids when we were going through divorce

The real test of whether my kids' mom was successful at being a mom is how they do in school (they did good) and how they start their careers after they finish their education (so far so good!).